Troubles are blessings that help you find your purpose 🧿
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Troubles are blessings that help you find your purpose.
Here's how you can turn your trouble into purpose:
1. Discover and face your most burning trouble: It's often the one you believe you were born with, or that it’s simply how things are meant to be, and you can never overcome it. It troubles you constantly, yet you've accepted it as part of your life, even when it causes you pain. You perceive it as your misfortune.
2. Take action to overcome it: Start taking daily steps to conquer that challenge. It's going to be incredibly tough, but keep pushing forward. Remind yourself that overcoming it is possible.
3. Teach others how to do it: Once you start seeing results, teach others how to do it.
Have no expectations from others. Live every moment to the fullest. Become better than yesterday. Work on your skills. Showcase. Don’t come in your own way. That’s all that matters. Self improvement is the best way to progress. Be MVP wherever you go and whomever you work with.
Inability to set aside the bag of our memories is what keeps us stuck.
Expansion: Every struggle, pain, misery, joy, and achievement you experience is just a memory. The moment has already passed, but it’s still alive in your mind. Let go to experience the present reality and move on to the next thing.
To avoid anxiety about an upcoming event, go in unprepared or underprepared. Underestimate the event, and you will feel less pressure. You’ll see that you’re able to stay more natural, and you do your best when you’re natural.
What you believe about yourself is what you radiate and that’s what people perceives about you, and that’s what you attract. Your beliefs sets ups the type of magnet you become.
P.S: Don’t forget to back the belief by actually putting in the work.
I have been struggling to regulate my urge to control. I tend to over-control situations and people, which is not good.
Too much control leads to anxiety and disappointment when things don’t go our way. But too little control can cause things to go in completely wrong directions.
I’m learning to step back and let things take their own course. This often happens, not the way I planned, but still beautifully.
Find something to look forward to. It helps you stay motivated and excited for the next day.
This doesn’t happen naturally anymore, especially if you’re away from your family. Everything becomes optional, and you end up not participating. Also in school, things were chosen for us: class schedules, exam dates, class 1 then 2, 3, and so on—clear routes. But once you’re out, it’s all up to you. It’s uncertain and easy to go off the rails. You have to make continuous efforts to stay on track.
Aim to live a life where you’re excited every moment. Where you don’t want to sleep but have to. Where you don’t want to eat but need to. That’s when you know you’re living a life and doing something you really love and care for.
The fundamental desire that we all share is the desire to touch another life. It's a desire worth pursuing. At what scale is up to you.
Explanation: At our core, all we want to do is touch another life through our actions. All our ambitions stem from this desire. If they come from something else, they won't last forever. Whether you're doing a job, building a company or product, creating content, making friends in school, or working to take care of your family, what keeps you going (after the money part is sorted) is the sense that you're touching someone's life. If you take that away, you'll quit in no time.
What makes a job or education boring is the lack of a sense that your work is reaching people and making a difference in their lives.
You can make any work exciting with this understanding.
Your vibe (energy and aura) is what attracts opportunities, and your hard work converts them into rewards. Without the right energy and aura, no amount of hard work can bring you opportunities. Work on uplifting your aura as much as you work on up-skilling.
To stay healthy, food must enter and exit your body. The sooner, the better. Similarly, thoughts must come in and pass out. The sooner, the better. The longer they stay stuck in your head, the more they rot and the more unpleasantness they create.
What makes a thought stuck? Out of the thousands of thoughts we have in a day, the ones that cause even a little bit of fear will stick. It’s an inherent mechanism to protect you from danger. For example: - What if someone disagrees with what you say? - What if you sound less intelligent? - What if you don’t perform well at your job? - What if you don’t get that new job?
How do you know that a thought is stuck? You know it when your mind is uneasy. It continuously tries to find ways to escape the imaginary situations. You can’t stop it.
How to get the junk thoughts out? Detect them sooner. The sooner, the easier. Be aware of the junk thoughts and don’t misunderstand them as reality. Close your eyes, place a hand on your heart, and take a deep breath. Tell your mind, "You’re wrong. It’s a false alarm. Reality is different. You’re safe." Exhale, and as you exhale, imagine the thought leaving your body and dissipating into the air. Repeat until you feel better.
You literally fuel it to become a reality by fearing it.
Read the subsequent posts to understand where fear comes from and how it is the source of all our thoughts ->
1. Solitude: Dark reality
2. You’re four brains and one body.
If you’re struggling with unwanted thoughts, the best way is probably to label them. How? By understanding who is the creator of those thoughts.
You have four brains, not one! This is what makes it very difficult. I’m NOT a doctor or psychiatrist, nor have I studied the brain, but I had this realization when struggling to find answers to my own problems.
+ 1. First, the front part of the brain, or the first brain, is conscious. You learn new skills with this part. It also activates when you become conscious of your actions. It makes you feel awkward. It consumes more energy relative to the third brain, but less than the second.
- 2. Second, the center part, or the second brain, is the survival brain. It is the oldest, most mature, and biggest. It’s responsible for all your fears. It has control of your body. It consumes the most energy. It will exhaust your mind and body if it stays too active. Read more about it.
+ 3. Third, the rear part, or the third brain, is subconscious. It is the most powerful. It does heavy lifting with ease and performs tasks gracefully. It consumes the least energy. You’re most natural when you keep operating from the subconscious. The goal of learning a new skill is to pass it from the front lobe (conscious) to the subconscious.
+ 4. Fourth, the inner lobe has pure consciousness (your feeling of the heart). Things done with the subconscious (rear lobe) with a sprinkle of heart give maximum pleasure and least exhaustion. The nature of this mind is to connect with other life forms. When it's more active, you'll feel loved and connected to every piece of life around you.
You’re the average of: 1 - 2 + 3 + 4
A person with less intelligence and a less active survival mind can outperform a more intelligent person with a more active survival mind.
Most battles you face in your mind are attempts to reduce the activity of your survival mind. When it's too active, it isolates you, creates walls, and blocks the flow of neurons between the 1st and 3rd parts of the brain. It clouds your mind and blocks the subconscious (3rd) from taking over, which does things naturally and consumes less energy. It blocks heartfelt (4th) connection with other life forms. You feel isolated. It creates fear. The more you fear, the more active it becomes. It's a loop. You must not fear when it's active to break this cycle.
When you struggle, you need to distance yourself and observe the activities of your brain. If you practice enough, you'll start to see clearly which part of your brain is currently more active and where the root of each thought lies.
One step deeper: Memory
All these parts of the brain have access to the same bag of memories, but each interprets them differently.
1. The front part interprets memories to sharpen skills.
2. The second part interprets memories to scan and find danger. For example, it makes you overthink something you said or did to avoid having a bad relationship with someone. This is because, for this part of the brain, being alone means being in the wild where hunters are all around you, and you can't afford to be left alone. Otherwise, you'll be hunted and end up dead.
3. The third part interprets memories to simply replay them as you go about your day. As you walk, you think of a joke and laugh.
4. The fourth part is almost unsullied by memory. When you learn to stay in the moment, in the present, you operate with this part.
This will get deep very soon. It’s okay if you don’t get it. I hope you’re never forced to understand it:
An extended (> 6 months) period of solitude reveals the reality of our monkey brains. When you’re left alone with your thoughts, you’ll see that they turn against you. You’ll try to avoid solitude. But when life forces it, you must face it. You have no option.
It makes you question, where is all this poison coming from? You dig deeper and deeper. You’ll taste countless flavors of poison as you inquire.
The only way to stop the poison is to get to its roots. After years of inquiry, once you get down there, you’ll realize it was just different flavors of the same thought: fear. Well, somebody might ask about passion or desire. Well, they’re just fear of regrets or fear of death.
Every thought’s root is fear, just trying to express itself in different ways.
If you happen to dig even deeper, you’ll realize that it was coming from the most mature part of your brain, your survival brain, which was creating poison under the misconception that it was a remedy. It is always scanning and trying to protect you by sending fears. That fear manifests itself into anxiety, anger, desire, uneasiness, envy, ego, lust, hate, groupism, loneliness, and all other negative emotions.
Once you catch this, you’ll create peace with solitude.
When you choose to envy someone, you block yourself from creating ways to get what you envy in others. You isolate. You reject. You look down upon people. You assume they got 'lucky’.
When you admire, you create ways. You learn from them. You fire up your brain cells. You get excited. You want to be around more people whom you can admire. You open up.
Gratitude allows you to use your current resources as a launchpad to get where you want to be.
Explanation: Without gratitude, you’ll keep criticising the things you have. Can you make the most out of something if you keep criticising it? Having a sense of gratitude for what you already have enables you to maximize its potential, allowing you to utilize your current resources to their fullest and make them a launchpad to reach your next destination.
World moves in a direction that it’s destined to move. We, people, just become the instruments through which that happens. Without Thomas Edison, the artificial light source was anyway going to be invented. Without Wright brothers, air travel was anyway going to happen. Without AI pioneers, the world was going towards artificial intelligence. Without, Mark Zuckerberg, long-distance social interaction was going to happen. These all people, just became an instrument through which great things happened.
Then, you’d ask is it all luck? No, not at all. It happened through them because they operate at certain energy and have certain purity, that allowed universe to make them their instruments.
I know, it’s impossible to believe for some of you. But if you would go to these people and ask: Was there no involvement of unexpected encounters that played a major role in what they did. An honest man would say, they just kept working and things just unfolded one after another.
Every moment world is choosing someone as an instrument to go where it’s meant to go. If you’d like to be that instrument which world later calls a ‘Success’; keep yourself pure, strive to become better then yesterday, and keep working.
It is one of those concepts that can only be understood through experience:
Every day, our lives unfold in ways we can't fully predict, much like a flower gradually blooming. You are currently at a stage where you have not fully blossomed. Each day, all you can see is a new petal. You cannot decide the color or shape of this new petal. All you have control over is whether you will unfold the new petal or not.
That’s all that matters in life. Each of us is at different stages of unfolding our lives. Only those who strive every moment will fully blossom. Others, who stop striving because they dislike the shape of an unfolded petal, will never get to see the beauty of the next petal—the beauty of their lives fully blossomed.
In the end, at the fully blossomed stage, we’ll all be different. We’ll be beautiful.
One thing I have learned from my 5 years of meditation practice and, more recently, yoga: When you get control over your breath, you get control over your life too.
I wanted to expand upon my earlier writing about love, which I left unfinished. When I say love, it isn't just between two people; it could be with anyone or anything, even with just nature.
If I were to define love in one word, that would be UNION. When you unite with someone so completely that it becomes a part of you, there are no more separations. They naturally just become an extension of you, physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, in every way. When the union is that complete and inclusive, then things like trust, peace, respect, understanding, etc., just become obvious, don't they? Would you not be understanding to your own self if that 'self' includes them too?
It just feels magical because you literally extend yourself by including them within you. But we rarely get to experience such level of depth. 🤞
Another interesting realization I had is that love is boundless. Broaden the scope of love. There is no limit to what you can love. If you truly love, then it becomes a part of you. Then what if you love the whole universe? You'll suddenly feel that you've expanded your boundary to include the whole universe. Difficult part is to sustain it every moment.
I set time for my activities. I have allocated specific time slots for activities, ensuring I follow through on them. Even if I'm not feeling up to it, I make sure to at least make an appearance and do a little.
For example, every morning, I start my day with meditation, using techniques I've developed over years to suit my needs. Even on days when I'm not feeling particularly motivated, I still make an effort, even if I need to tweak my approach or shorten the time based on my mood.
After breakfast, I dive into work, choosing tasks based on my motivation level—a privilege I've earned through hard work. Regardless of how I feel, I commit to working certain hours each day, whether it's doing new things or focusing on work-related tasks.
Once work is done, it's time for exercise / yoga. If there are days when I'm not feeling like it, I opt for simpler physical activities like walking or playing with a cricket ball. The important thing is sticking to the time allocated for physical activity.
In a world where everyone wants to just spill out their thoughts and emotions, strive to be the one who listens, reflects, understands, and engages in meaningful discussions.
With every technological advancement, it's becoming increasingly easier to translate your thoughts into actions. If you want to see someone, they're just a call away. If you want to learn something, it's a click away. Now, with AI, if you have an idea, it literally takes only minutes to make it a reality. Everything you want is becoming more accessible with just a click, almost like using a magic wand. Take advantage of this convenience and turn your thoughts into actions.
I had a hard time realizing that legacy is a myth. Desiring to leave a legacy will make your life a nightmare. No matter what you do, nobody will remember you in 100 (realistically pessimist) to 10,000 (very very optimist) years, which is a mere blink compared to the universe's lifespan. Don’t worry about leaving a legacy. Don’t try to be like others. Live your life to the fullest. That’s what matters.
સવારના 5 વાગ્યા હતા (EST) જ્યારે મને મારી બહેનનો ફોન આવ્યો; મને તરત જ ખબર પડી કે કંઈક ખોટું હતું. મેં ઉપાડ્યો અને સમાચાર સાંભળ્યા કે મારા દાદીનું અવસાન થયું છે. હું તરત જ મારા પલંગ પર સીધો બેસી ગયો અને મારી આંખો બંધ કરી. તેણીની બધી યાદો મારી સામે ચમકી, અને બરાબર બે આંસુ મારા ગાલ નીચે વહી ગયા. 10 મિનિટ પછી, હું તેના તમામ બલિદાન માટે કૃતજ્ઞતાથી ભરાઈ ગયો. મેં તેનો આભાર માન્યો અને તેના શાંતિપૂર્ણ વિદાય માટે પ્રાર્થના કરી. તેનાથી મને અહેસાસ થયો કે આપણે જીવનમાં ઘણી બાબતોને ગ્રાન્ટેડ તરીકે લઈએ છીએ તે બીજાના બલિદાનને કારણે છે. જો મારી દાદીએ ઘર સંભાળીને મારા દાદાને સાથ ન આપ્યો હોત તો તેઓ સફળ ન થયા હોત. તે પછીથી મારા પિતાના સંચાલન હેઠળ મોટો થયો હોય તેવો વ્યવસાય સ્થાપી શક્યો ન હોત. જો હું નાનો હતો ત્યારે મારી માતા અને દાદીએ મારી કાળજી ન લીધી હોત, તો મારા પિતા વ્યવસાયમાં સંપૂર્ણ રીતે પ્રતિબદ્ધ થઈ શક્યા ન હોત. અમારું કુટુંબ અત્યારે જેટલું આર્થિક રીતે સ્થિર નહીં હોય, તે મને મારા જુસ્સાને અનુસરવાની અને જોખમો લેવાની સ્વતંત્રતા આપે છે. મારી પાછલી પેઢીઓના આજીવન બલિદાનના પરિણામે મારા માટે ઓછું તણાવપૂર્ણ, વધુ મુક્ત અને આરામદાયક જીવન બન્યું છે.
નાનપણથી, જ્યારે હું વિશ્વને અને મૃત્યુની કલ્પનાને વધુ સારી રીતે સમજવા લાગ્યો, ત્યારે મેં તેના ચહેરા પર સ્મિત લાવવાની ખાતરી કરી. ગયા વર્ષ સુધી મેં જોક્સ ફોડ્યા અને તેણીને હસાવ્યા, જ્યારે તેણીની ઇન્દ્રિયો નિષ્ફળ થવા લાગી. મારી દાદીમાં તણાવ અને ચિંતા કરવાની વૃત્તિ હતી, અને મને તેમાંથી ઘણું બધું વારસામાં મળ્યું છે. હું સ્પષ્ટપણે જોઈ શકું છું કે મને તેના અને મારા દાદા અને માતા-પિતા તરફથી કયા ગુણો વારસામાં મળ્યા છે. તે અદ્ભુત છે કે વ્યક્તિ કેવી રીતે પસાર થઈ શકે છે, પરંતુ તેના ગુણો આપણી અંદર રહે છે. એક રીતે જોઈએ તો આપણા બધા પૂર્વજો કોઈને કોઈ રૂપમાં આપણી અંદર રહે છે.
મૃત્યુ તારીખ: 12મી ફેબ્રુઆરી 2024
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It was 5 am (EST) in the morning when I received a call from my sister; I knew immediately something was wrong. I picked up and heard the news that my grandmother had passed away. I immediately sat upright on my bed and closed my eyes. All the memories of her flashed in front of me, and exactly two tears rolled down my cheeks. After 10 minutes, I was filled with gratitude for all her sacrifices. I thanked her and prayed for her peaceful departure. It made me realize that many things we take for granted in life are because of the sacrifices of others. If my grandmother hadn't supported my grandfather by taking care of the house, he wouldn't have been successful. He wouldn't have been able to set up a business that later grew bigger under my father's management. If my mother and grandmother hadn't taken care of me when I was a child, my father wouldn't have been able to fully commit to the business. Our family wouldn't be as financially stable as it is now, affording me the freedom to pursue my passions and take risks. The lifetime sacrifices of my previous generations have resulted in a less stressful, more free, and comfortable life for me.
Since a young age, when I began to understand the world better and the concept of death, I made sure to bring a smile to her face. I cracked jokes and made her laugh until last year, when her senses began to fail her. My grandmother had a tendency to stress and worry a lot, and I've inherited much of that from her. I can clearly see which qualities I've inherited from her, as well as from my grandfather and parents.
It's wonderful how a person may pass away, but their qualities continue to live within us. In a way, all our ancestors live within us in some form.
Everybody is the CEO of their own body, mind, emotions, and energy. Your single instruction can steer them in a certain direction. You make decisions every moment of your life. Be a good CEO.
When you consider the factors that shape one's opinion, there are too many uncontrollable consequences.
All of us exist due to the Earth's current habitable conditions. The next major disaster is inevitable in a few hundred thousand years, which could potentially wipe out all current forms of technology. Similarly, there could have been entirely different forms of technology before our current habitat. Therefore, one factor is the current technological advancement we live in.
The second factor is the country and city we were born in.
The third is the family we were born into.
The fourth is the economic times we were brought up in.
The fifth is the genes that we carry.
The sixth is the human civilisation we are born in.
Many more.
There are just so many things beyond anyone's control that shape our opinions. However, it's not impossible to realize these controlling factors and break free from them.
What your mind focuses on is what receives nourishment to grow. If it focuses on obstacles, they receive the nutrients and grow. If it focuses on fears, they receive the nutrients and grow. If it focuses on your goals, they receive the nutrients and grow.
Thoughts are the quickest drugs. A good thought can make you happy, while a bad thought can make you anxious. A positive thought can make you feel in control, but a negative thought can make you feel like you're drowning. I hate to admit it, but I'm also a culprit of this.
I have such a selective choice of content (movies, shows, etc.) that I started wondering exactly what type of content I like. After reflecting for some time, I realized that I enjoy watching content where I can either see myself in a character or aspire to gain some of their qualities. It could be true for many people too?
Work on breaking each layer to find yourself. Layers will be different for every individual. Layers are also known as baggages. Baggage to be smartest in room. Baggage to prove our point. Baggage to know it all.
3 things that will make relationships last beyond life:
Take time to decide if another person is right for you. But, once sincere decision is made to be together there mustn’t be a backup option to separate in back of any person’s mind.
Love is complete acceptance of another person, so complete that there are no two separate person anymore.
Acceptance level can be variable time to time. So, what is required it to last lifetime and beyond is pure commitment to make it work together no matter what.
