Rushi Patel

If you’re struggling with unwanted thoughts, the best way is probably to label them. How? By understanding who is the creator of those thoughts.

You have four brains, not one! This is what makes it very difficult. I’m NOT a doctor or psychiatrist, nor have I studied the brain, but I had this realization when struggling to find answers to my own problems.

+ 1. First, the front part of the brain, or the first brain, is conscious. You learn new skills with this part. It also activates when you become conscious of your actions. It makes you feel awkward. It consumes more energy relative to the third brain, but less than the second.

- 2. Second, the center part, or the second brain, is the survival brain. It is the oldest, most mature, and biggest. It’s responsible for all your fears. It has control of your body. It consumes the most energy. It will exhaust your mind and body if it stays too active. Read more about it.

+ 3. Third, the rear part, or the third brain, is subconscious. It is the most powerful. It does heavy lifting with ease and performs tasks gracefully. It consumes the least energy. You’re most natural when you keep operating from the subconscious. The goal of learning a new skill is to pass it from the front lobe (conscious) to the subconscious.

+ 4. Fourth, the inner lobe has pure consciousness (your feeling of the heart). Things done with the subconscious (rear lobe) with a sprinkle of heart give maximum pleasure and least exhaustion. The nature of this mind is to connect with other life forms. When it's more active, you'll feel loved and connected to every piece of life around you.

You’re the average of:
1 - 2 + 3 + 4

A person with less intelligence and a less active survival mind can outperform a more intelligent person with a more active survival mind.

Most battles you face in your mind are attempts to reduce the activity of your survival mind. When it's too active, it isolates you, creates walls, and blocks the flow of neurons between the 1st and 3rd parts of the brain. It clouds your mind and blocks the subconscious (3rd) from taking over, which does things naturally and consumes less energy. It blocks heartfelt (4th) connection with other life forms. You feel isolated. It creates fear. The more you fear, the more active it becomes. It's a loop. You must not fear when it's active to break this cycle.

When you struggle, you need to distance yourself and observe the activities of your brain. If you practice enough, you'll start to see clearly which part of your brain is currently more active and where the root of each thought lies.

One step deeper: Memory

All these parts of the brain have access to the same bag of memories, but each interprets them differently.

1. The front part interprets memories to sharpen skills.

2. The second part interprets memories to scan and find danger. For example, it makes you overthink something you said or did to avoid having a bad relationship with someone. This is because, for this part of the brain, being alone means being in the wild where hunters are all around you, and you can't afford to be left alone. Otherwise, you'll be hunted and end up dead.

3. The third part interprets memories to simply replay them as you go about your day. As you walk, you think of a joke and laugh.

4. The fourth part is almost unsullied by memory. When you learn to stay in the moment, in the present, you operate with this part.

Realization by Rushi Patel

Solitude: Dark reality

Notes on Jun 22, 2024

This will get deep very soon. It’s okay if you don’t get it. I hope you’re never forced to understand it: An extended (> 6 months) period of solitude reveals the reality of our monkey brains. When you’re left alone with your thoughts, you’ll see that they turn against you. You’ll try to avoid solitude. But when life forces it, you must face it. You have no option. It makes you question, . . . .

Admire > Envy

Notes on Jun 16, 2024

When you choose to envy someone, you block yourself from creating ways to get what you envy in others. You isolate. You reject. You look down upon people. You assume they got 'lucky’. When you admire, you create ways. You learn from them. You fire up your brain cells. You get excited. You want to be around more people whom you can admire. You open up.

Gratitude

Notes on Jun 04, 2024

Gratitude allows you to use your current resources as a launchpad to get where you want to be. Explanation: Without gratitude, you’ll keep criticising the things you have. Can you make the most out of something if you keep criticising it? Having a sense of gratitude for what you already have enables you to maximize its potential, allowing you to utilize your current resources to their full . . . .

Self improvement

Notes on May 15, 2024

Let everything else around you be just a byproduct of your self improvement

Maximize

Notes on May 10, 2024

While you work towards what you want, maximize what you have.

Law of universe

Notes on Apr 26, 2024

World moves in a direction that it’s destined to move. We, people, just become the instruments through which that happens. Without Thomas Edison, the artificial light source was anyway going to be invented. Without Wright brothers, air travel was anyway going to happen. Without AI pioneers, the world was going towards artificial intelligence. Without, Mark Zuckerberg, long-distance social . . . .

Blossom

Notes on Apr 25, 2024

It is one of those concepts that can only be understood through experience: Every day, our lives unfold in ways we can't fully predict, much like a flower gradually blooming. You are currently at a stage where you have not fully blossomed. Each day, all you can see is a new petal. You cannot decide the color or shape of this new petal. All you have control over is whether you will unfold t . . . .

Stay out of influences

Notes on Apr 18, 2024

When making an important decision make sure you keep yourself away from absolutely all the influences. Any decision taken in influence of peers, society, media, parents or even your own past will most likely lead to disappointment in long run.

Less > More

Notes on Mar 26, 2024

In world of MORES, I want to be LESS*

Unique success

Notes on Mar 25, 2024

Remain extremely true to yourself. Let no one's influence decide for you. Do only what truly matters to you. That will be your unique road to success.

Breath 🧘🏻‍♂️

Notes on Mar 07, 2024

One thing I have learned from my 5 years of meditation practice and, more recently, yoga: When you get control over your breath, you get control over your life too. P.s: I’ll expand more upon it in future posts.

Redefining LOVE

Notes on Feb 26, 2024

I wanted to expand upon my earlier writing about love, which I left unfinished. When I say love, it isn't just between two people; it could be with anyone or anything, even with just nature. If I were to define love in one word, that would be UNION. When you unite with someone so completely that it becomes a part of you, there are no more separations. They naturally just become an extensio . . . .

Time bouding

Notes on Feb 23, 2024

I set time for my activities. I have allocated specific time slots for activities, ensuring I follow through on them. Even if I'm not feeling up to it, I make sure to at least make an appearance and do a little. For example, every morning, I start my day with meditation, using techniques I've developed over years to suit my needs. Even on days when I'm not feeling particularly motivated, I . . . .

Meaningful discussions

Notes on Feb 20, 2024

In a world where everyone wants to just spill out their thoughts and emotions, strive to be the one who listens, reflects, understands, and engages in meaningful discussions. P.s: Notifying my subscribers for the first time!

Thought to Action

Notes on Feb 19, 2024

With every technological advancement, it's becoming increasingly easier to translate your thoughts into actions. If you want to see someone, they're just a call away. If you want to learn something, it's a click away. Now, with AI, if you have an idea, it literally takes only minutes to make it a reality. Everything you want is becoming more accessible with just a click, almost like using . . . .

Legacy is a myth

Notes on Feb 19, 2024

I had a hard time realizing that legacy is a myth. Desiring to leave a legacy will make your life a nightmare. No matter what you do, nobody will remember you in 100 (realistically pessimist) to 10,000 (very very optimist) years, which is a mere blink compared to the universe's lifespan. Don’t worry about leaving a legacy. Don’t try to be like others. Live your life to the fullest. That’s . . . .

Inside

Notes on Feb 15, 2024

Ah, I was about to write this:

Dear Baa

Notes on Feb 14, 2024

Dear baa, (Keep scrolling) (English text follows) સવારના 5 વાગ્યા હતા (EST) જ્યારે મને મારી બહેનનો ફોન આવ્યો; મને તરત જ ખબર પડી કે કંઈક ખોટું હતું. મેં ઉપાડ્યો અને સમાચાર સાંભળ્યા કે મારા દાદીનું અવસાન થયું છે. હું તરત જ મારા પલંગ પર સીધો બેસી ગયો અને મારી આંખો બંધ કરી. તેણીની બધી યાદો મારી સામે ચમકી, અને બરાબર બે આંસુ મારા ગાલ નીચે વહી ગયા. 10 મિનિટ પછી, હું તેના તમામ બલિદાન માટે કૃતજ્ઞતા . . . .

Dear baa,

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સવારના 5 વાગ્યા હતા (EST) જ્યારે મને મારી બહેનનો ફોન આવ્યો; મને તરત જ ખબર પડી કે કંઈક ખોટું હતું. મેં ઉપાડ્યો અને સમાચાર સાંભળ્યા કે મારા દાદીનું અવસાન થયું છે. હું તરત જ મારા પલંગ પર સીધો બેસી ગયો અને મારી આંખો બંધ કરી. તેણીની બધી યાદો મારી સામે ચમકી, અને બરાબર બે આંસુ મારા ગાલ નીચે વહી ગયા. 10 મિનિટ પછી, હું તેના તમામ બલિદાન માટે કૃતજ્ઞતાથી ભરાઈ ગયો. મેં તેનો આભાર માન્યો અને તેના શાંતિપૂર્ણ વિદાય માટે પ્રાર્થના કરી. તેનાથી મને અહેસાસ થયો કે આપણે જીવનમાં ઘણી બાબતોને ગ્રાન્ટેડ તરીકે લઈએ છીએ તે બીજાના બલિદાનને કારણે છે. જો મારી દાદીએ ઘર સંભાળીને મારા દાદાને સાથ ન આપ્યો હોત તો તેઓ સફળ ન થયા હોત. તે પછીથી મારા પિતાના સંચાલન હેઠળ મોટો થયો હોય તેવો વ્યવસાય સ્થાપી શક્યો ન હોત. જો હું નાનો હતો ત્યારે મારી માતા અને દાદીએ મારી કાળજી ન લીધી હોત, તો મારા પિતા વ્યવસાયમાં સંપૂર્ણ રીતે પ્રતિબદ્ધ થઈ શક્યા ન હોત. અમારું કુટુંબ અત્યારે જેટલું આર્થિક રીતે સ્થિર નહીં હોય, તે મને મારા જુસ્સાને અનુસરવાની અને જોખમો લેવાની સ્વતંત્રતા આપે છે. મારી પાછલી પેઢીઓના આજીવન બલિદાનના પરિણામે મારા માટે ઓછું તણાવપૂર્ણ, વધુ મુક્ત અને આરામદાયક જીવન બન્યું છે.

નાનપણથી, જ્યારે હું વિશ્વને અને મૃત્યુની કલ્પનાને વધુ સારી રીતે સમજવા લાગ્યો, ત્યારે મેં તેના ચહેરા પર સ્મિત લાવવાની ખાતરી કરી. ગયા વર્ષ સુધી મેં જોક્સ ફોડ્યા અને તેણીને હસાવ્યા, જ્યારે તેણીની ઇન્દ્રિયો નિષ્ફળ થવા લાગી. મારી દાદીમાં તણાવ અને ચિંતા કરવાની વૃત્તિ હતી, અને મને તેમાંથી ઘણું બધું વારસામાં મળ્યું છે. હું સ્પષ્ટપણે જોઈ શકું છું કે મને તેના અને મારા દાદા અને માતા-પિતા તરફથી કયા ગુણો વારસામાં મળ્યા છે. તે અદ્ભુત છે કે વ્યક્તિ કેવી રીતે પસાર થઈ શકે છે, પરંતુ તેના ગુણો આપણી અંદર રહે છે. એક રીતે જોઈએ તો આપણા બધા પૂર્વજો કોઈને કોઈ રૂપમાં આપણી અંદર રહે છે.

મૃત્યુ તારીખ: 12મી ફેબ્રુઆરી 2024

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It was 5 am (EST) in the morning when I received a call from my sister; I knew immediately something was wrong. I picked up and heard the news that my grandmother had passed away. I immediately sat upright on my bed and closed my eyes. All the memories of her flashed in front of me, and exactly two tears rolled down my cheeks. After 10 minutes, I was filled with gratitude for all her sacrifices. I thanked her and prayed for her peaceful departure. It made me realize that many things we take for granted in life are because of the sacrifices of others. If my grandmother hadn't supported my grandfather by taking care of the house, he wouldn't have been successful. He wouldn't have been able to set up a business that later grew bigger under my father's management. If my mother and grandmother hadn't taken care of me when I was a child, my father wouldn't have been able to fully commit to the business. Our family wouldn't be as financially stable as it is now, affording me the freedom to pursue my passions and take risks. The lifetime sacrifices of my previous generations have resulted in a less stressful, more free, and comfortable life for me.

Since a young age, when I began to understand the world better and the concept of death, I made sure to bring a smile to her face. I cracked jokes and made her laugh until last year, when her senses began to fail her. My grandmother had a tendency to stress and worry a lot, and I've inherited much of that from her. I can clearly see which qualities I've inherited from her, as well as from my grandfather and parents.

It's wonderful how a person may pass away, but their qualities continue to live within us. In a way, all our ancestors live within us in some form.

Date of Death: 12th February 2024

Everybody is a CEO

Notes on Feb 11, 2024

Everybody is the CEO of their own body, mind, emotions, and energy. Your single instruction can steer them in a certain direction. You make decisions every moment of your life. Be a good CEO.